Wednesday, August 13, 2025

Summer 2025 ~ Embracing Joy

Our summer is rapidly coming to an end. It has been a very busy summer that I have tried to splash joy throughout. There is no doubt we are living through difficult times locally (post Hurricane Helene recovery is slow and daunting with very limited federal funding), nationally and economically. On top of all of that, the day-to-day grind of taking care of a special needs family often ways heavily on me. However, there is joy and beauty all around us. We just have to seek it and embrace it. 

Before I review all the fun we had, I will give a quick update. Elijah completed two more classes in college this summer. He is doing well with his classes. I do need to hold him to a schedule and keep him on task, but his comprehension, quality and completion of his school work is his own. He now has completed five classes and holds an A in each one of them. 

Rebekah danced her heart out at The Richmond Ballet, Washington Ballet and The Ballet Conservatory of Asheville. When she wasn't dancing, she was teaching dance classes. She will continue dancing as an apprentice at Carolina Ballet Theatre (CBT) this year. She is moving in with some other dancers in Greenville, SC next week. This will make her commute just a few minutes each day instead of a four hour round trip. We are so pleased for her. She will still be home for two days each week to see us and her cat (who can't move with her) and to teach at Ballet Conservatory of Asheville (BCA). It will be a good, slow transition to independence for her. She will also be teaching in Greenville as well as completing her degree this year in Business Marketing. 

Tim is doing well and continues to work 9 hours a week at a game store here in Asheville. He is generally happy and healthy. 

I am balancing a full-time job being Tim's Innovation worker and a part-time job being a nanny to two adorable boys. I never lack for a list of things to do! 

So on with our summer ~ 

We took my Mom to afternoon tea to celebrate a late Mother's Day. It was the best afternoon tea that I have ever attended. My mother was delighted. We will go back someday ... maybe for Christmas. 



The whole family went on an adventure to The Columbia Zoo. We had a good time and the animals were all very active the day we were there. 



Rebekah wrapped up the season performing at BCA and CBT. She had a great year and is excited to return to CBT next week. 



We snuck away for a three day adventure to the beach. We went to Wilmington and explored the nearby beaches. I think we liked Wrightsville Beach better than Carolina Beach, even though the latter had a boardwalk. It was a disappointment from my youth. You just can't beat beaches in Maryland and Delaware, in my opinion. Those are the beaches of my childhood. We also went to Fort Fisher but couldn't get into the aquarium because it was too crowded that afternoon. We did enjoy walking around the fort. Of course, we had to play mini golf. That is a beach requirement in my family. 







Rebekah spent three weeks living with Dear Husband's sister and brother-in-law while she was dancing at the Richmond Ballet. They all had a great time together.  Dear Husband and I drove to Richmond to pick up Rebekah and joined the sister and brother-in-law to go to a nearby drive-in movie. That was one of my bucket list items and it did not disappoint. We saw Superman.  This particular drive-in was very organized. It worked out great. 




Later in the summer, Rebekah and I went to Washington, D.C. so that Rebekah could dance with The Washington Ballet. I stayed there, since she was only there a week. We visited with my stepmother, and I went on adventures around the city while Rebekah danced. The city is so much safer than when I was a child (my visit was before Trump's fake proclamation that the city was dangerous). He should have seen it in the 1990's ... lol. I digress. I had always wanted to visit the Fredrick Douglass home. It is set in a part of the city called Anacostia which was an extremely dangerous area when I was a kid ... but since it is so much safer in D.C. these last few years, I finally got to go. We had no trouble moving around in this very poor section of the city. Anacostia was a working class neighborhood that had become middle class by the time Fredrick Douglass bought Cedar Hill Estate in the heart of Anacostia. What a view he had! You can see the Washington Monument from his front porch. Fredrick Douglass was the most photographed person of his time period. For this reason, he took his appearance very seriously.  His household even had different irons to handle all of the ruffles and different fabrics he wore. 


This is his growlery (personal sanctuary). He used it to cope with his bouts of PTSD from his years as a slave. He didn't want to expose his visitors and grandchildren to his foul moods.  



My stepmother and I also went to Bubble Planet. It was advertised as being for all ages. We were the only ones there without children ... but no matter. We had a wonderful time. The bubble ball pool was amazing and the balloon room was so much fun. There were also soap bubble rooms and lots of fun photo op areas. 



For my belated birthday present, I asked to go to afternoon tea in the Washington, D.C. area. We went to Lady Camilla's in Old Town Alexandria. It was very nice, but not as amazing as the one in our city. 



Lastly, David and I had a belated anniversary overnight at a new hotel in a historic building in Asheville. We decided a few years ago to make a tradition of spending our anniversary being tourists in our own city and exploring the many luxury and boutique hotels. If you are going to live in a tourist city, you might as well enjoy what it has to offer. We stayed at the Flat Iron Hotel. It was marvelous. Our favorite so far. They greeted us with wine glasses with our choice of wine or mocktails. We got the mocktails and they were delicious. Everything in the building was original or lovingly returned to 1927 architecture. We had a corner room with windows looking out on two views of the city. We explored the the rooftop bar and had dessert before dinner. Then we ate in the Italian Restaurant in the hotel. The service all the way around was incredible. They realized what we needed before we even realized we wanted anything. 


My job is going very well.  I am just honored to be a part of these sweet boys' lives. They are delightful, and I think there is just nothing more rewarding than impacting the lives of the young.  They fill my days with laughter and hope. We have had a wonderful time exploring the outdoors and embracing nature. I love teaching children to love mountain streams. It is so much fun splashing around in them. 





These are photos from The Washington Ballet.


Hope! That is a word that many of us are longing to feel right now. Things are crazy right now. There is an overwhelming amount of lies, hate, misunderstandings, fears and anger ... so much anger. We have gone to several protests. I am glad to be able to express ourselves and be part of participating in our democracy. Remember, this country belongs to the people ... not just a few rich people who are power hungry. 

"Power always thinks ... that it is doing God's service when it is violating all his laws." -- John Adams

The Great Society rests on abundance and liberty for all. It demands an end to poverty and racial injustice, to which we are totally committed in our time." -- Lyndon Johnson


"Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will." -- Fredrick Douglass


Democracy is a process, not a static condition. It is becoming, rather than being. It can easily be lost, but never is fully won. Its essence is eternal struggle." - Federal Judge William H. Hastie


"Democracy cannot succeed unless those who express their choice are prepared to choose wisely. The real safeguard of democracy, therefore, is education". -- Franklin D Roosevelt


“The problem is whether the American people have loyalty enough, honor enough, patriotism enough, to live up to their own 
Constitution.” -- Fredrick Douglass


“The liberty of a democracy is not safe if the people tolerated the growth of private power to a point where it becomes stronger than the democratic state itself. That in its essence is fascism: ownership of government by an individual, by a group, or any controlling private power.”
― Franklin D. Roosevelt

Blessings, Dawn


Monday, May 5, 2025

A Three Birthday Month

Birthdays

Timothy, Grandma and Elijah took another trip around the sun in April.  Each of their birthdays were celebrated with a special dinner and dessert.  Tim chose Huli Sue's and having brownies at home. Huli Sue's is a Hawaiin restaurant and our meal was delicious. Grandma chose dinner at home with homemade fried rice and Angel Food cake. Elijah picked Pack's Tavern, which is an old favorite restaurant and then having a donut tree in lieu of a cake. I absolutely failed to take many photos in April, including pics of two of the birthday people. 

Tim with his tiny coffee.

Grandma's presents 

Elijah's birthday donut tower.
Rebekah's Performances
We attended another fabulous show that Rebekah performed in. This show was "Slepping Beauty and Friends". It had excerpts from several Disney shows. Rebekah was the broom in The Sorcerer's Apprentice and an evil stepsister in Cinderella. 
Rebekah as a flying broom.

Her balance amazes me.


I can barely recognize her with the red hair wig!




College
Both Elijah and Rebekah had great semesters in college. They each did well in their classes. Finals ended yesterday and now we wait for final grades. We can already see that, once again, Rebekah  got straight A's. Elijah's teachers are a little bit farther behind in posting results. We know he is getting either A's or high B's in all his classes. Rebekah is taking the summer off from college but Elijah is taking two classes this summer.  
Elijah made this keychain in class and gave it to Grandma for her birthday.
Pets
I discovered this cat window bed at the Bins (a store filled with
Amazon returns at incredible deals). It is very popular with our kitties.

Recovery After Helene
Recovery continues in WNC despite the federal government pulling funds. Our state's request for continued help from FEMA was denied. DOGE withdrew the CDC, which had set up appointments in our area in order to do a risk assessment and advise our local government on ridding the toxins in our water and soil, determining the 200 plus families still at the highest risk of contracting disease from their flooded living conditions, and performing suicide risk assessment and prevention (suicide commonly plagues natural disaster areas after about six months ... I have already heard of one). We really needed these services, but the CDC workers had to turn around and go back.

The pictures below were taken on Easter Sunday. They are of a local park that, because of closed roads and piles of debris, I hadn't been able to access before. Before Helene, it used to be a beautiful tree-lined park where my kiddos learned to ride their bikes.  Now it is a desolate piece of land that is littered with shattered glass from the breweries upstream. Most of the trees were washed away. Two more bridges have been repaired and opened.  The Lowes store reopened on the seventh month anniversary of Helene. 
There are still mangled cars to remind us of that tragic day scattered throughout our region.


This path used to be a dozen feet away from the river. Now parts of it have been washed away and the river has spread out, altering the landscape. 

Bales of paper from a recycling center upstream still rest in a ditch.

Our city is changed. So many people have moved away. On our street alone, which has about 20 houses...three now stand empty.  I drove through another community recently with more than ten homes up for sale. Houses used to be in extreme demand and now they stand empty. We keep moving forward and hope that we will rise as a stronger, more resilient community.  It is going to take a long time.

Blessings,  Dawn